May 28, 2013

What to say, what to do?

The past few days have been beyond tough for me.  I have wanted to share my feelings and thoughts with you.   You,  my blog family mean the most to me and I mean that just the way I say it.  You mean the very most to me!!  You all responded to my 60th and were there for me as not a one of my family said a word!

My mom had another very bad day on Sunday.  In fact she was 5 minutes away from having her O2 pulled away and a huge shot of morphine administered.  The family had once again been called to Mom’s bedside. However my brother told the Dr to wait until my father had returned.  Within that 10 minute period my Mom revived and today ( Monday pm ) she is holding her own.  She is a fighter.  I won’t go into the details but suffice to say that on Sunday we all told her that it was okay to just go and relax.  Colin thinks that because we all told her ( I did so via my phone to my brothers’ cell to Moms ear ) that it was alright to go, that she refused and started fighting back.  She is very feisty indeed and we all love her.  However she is a very sick lady and will never ever revert back to what she was.  I had her photo and her obit ready to send to the newspaper in Edmonton.  No go!  She is on top once again.  You rock Mom!!!

I could not travel to Edmonton today, Monday, as I had 2 VERY important medical appointments, one I have been waiting for over 18 months.  I have decided to stay here in Kelowna  until Mom passes and then go back to Edmonton.  I did have my special time with her 2 weeks ago and hugged and kissed her. I think that my dad  will need me much more once she has gone.

Life is not easy and all I can say….is….LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST EACH DAY!

Meanwhile, over the weekend, Colin put up our second rain chain.

...we really needed this one to make things work and it is doing a perfect job.

...the girls hung out around our tribute to Channel, our 2nd doxie who died at 3 years of age.

...just a symbol... that life it human, dog, goose or whatever.............


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13 responses so far

13 Responses to “What to say, what to do?”

  1. Thinking of you, your Mom and your family. I remember what it was like when my Mum (it’s the English form that we have always used in our family) was sick and dying and it is certainly not easy. That was in September of 2009, yet it feels like it was just yesterday. Sorry you can’t be there with her.

    • contessa says:

      Ruth & Kevin…thanks for sharing.

      Marty…your prayers are working.

      Peter…Thanks Peter, that must have been difficult for you at that age. Yes life goes on, I just hate the suffering part.

      Connie….love your hugs!!

      Shelagh & Peter….I hope that doesn’t happen in this situation. But you are right she makes the choice.

      Jean….I like how you wrote that. It is the dying that is most difficult.

      Dean…you always say the most perfect things. Thanks!

      George…thanks, having your support and all my blogs readers support helps a great deal.

      Nancy….food for thought, yes!

      TnT…your prayers are very special and greatly appreciated.

      Sandy……peace has a lovely sound to it.

      Cheryl….you are a great hugger. Somehow I knew you would be.

  2. Marty says:

    A tough time, my prayers are with you.

  3. Peter says:

    Hang in there Contessa and Colin.
    My mom died at age 47 of leukaemia when I was just 22 years old.
    Life goes on… But you will always miss your mommy.

  4. Connie in PA says:

    I lost both of mine and miss them every single day. Barry lost his dad and now we are facing some difficult situations with his mother knowing what is coming. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Love you, Contessa! Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  5. Shelagh says:

    Losing a mum is so hard, lost mine 3 years ago. However it was the timing of the loss that was hard to bear. It took a whole months rotation of staff to identify my mum should be let go. Finally one doctor said it was time. My mother at that time had no joy to live, so we did what the doctor suggested, it was the hospice wing. Contessa all I can say is that your mum should be the dictator of her time, it will be a struggle for you all with the near death calls. Take care of yourself and do what you can, in life you will have been a joy to her and that is what really counts.


  6. Jean says:

    So sorry you and your family are going through this painful time, your Mum will slip away when it is time, not before. I think it’s true that it’s not the death but the dying that’s hard.

    Take care of yourself,


  7. Dean says:

    Losing your parents is so hard. I’ve lost both and it’s just damn hard. It’s something you just have to go through to get around – there’s nothing really one can say or do to make it easier. But know you’re in our prayers, as is your Mom, Dad, and Colin. Bless you for all you do for everyone. Bless your sweet feisty mother for raising such a terrific daughter!

  8. Loosing a parent is so har as you know. And I think right just waiting for the inevitable is even harder.
    Hang in there guys!

  9. Nancy says:


    It’s always the people wecare the most about who have the power to hurt us…something to think about?

    I’m so sorry about the direction things are going with your mom. Such a super hard time.

    I didn’t wish you a happy birthday before, I am so glad it was a good one.


  10. Trent and Teresa says:

    So sorry to hear of the pain you are going through, Contessa.

    There is never a “good” time, but we know that you are dealing with your own health issues right now, so this is surely a bad time.

    Teresa and I are keeping you and your entire family in our prayers !!

    Hugs, TnT

  11. Sandy says:

    Praying, Contessa, for peace in body, mind and spirit for all of you.

  12. Cheryl says:

    My mother and I didn’t always see “eye-to-eye,” but in her later years she depended on me more that my other siblings. I lost my father at twelve, and my mother in my forties. Sometimes, life is difficult and sad. Thinking of you and sending you (((hugs))).

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